When was the last time you wrote a letter? When you cleared some space on your desk or the dining table, grabbed a cup of tea, pulled out your stationery and began writing to your nearest and dearest? If you're like most people these days, it's been a while.
What comes of us when our only means of communication is through screens? What happens when "real life" fades away and we're just sitting in the glow of a computer or phone during our waking hours? When we begin noticing less of what life is truly about while maintaining a steady focus on the digital world, as though we've all become an extension of the internet. What happens when the only things we know about our family and friends is their latest status update?
Let's put in the effort we've lost. Let's take the time to write about our day or a current event and send it off to someone we care about. Surprise them with a little treasure in the mailbox. Let them know you were thinking about them longer than the time it takes to "like" a status or comment with a default one liner.
When you write a letter it shows you've intentionally sat down to consider this person and their relationship to you. It shows you hold them with high regard and value them long enough to sit and think about them for a good 20 minutes, rather than a 10 second scroll through their social media feed.
There's something to be said about the "old" way of doing things, of sending tangible letters, of creating "real life" moments and love note paper trails, and recording memories for others to be found tucked away in their mailbox on a blustery winter day.
And those friends of yours who do still send letters? Do you send one in return or do you text/email thanking them for the letter saying you should get better about sending them yourself but never do?
This is called a one-sided relationship, when one person puts in more effort than the other. Thanking someone for their letter and texting to let them know you received theirs is not the same level of thought and care. If you are one of these people, I ask you why? Are you too busy? Do you think the other person isn't too busy and they have all the time in the world to be showing you affection with nothing in return? Do you have time to play games on your ipad or phone? Do you have time to watch tv? Most likely, if you have time to do these things, you have time to nurture your relationships. It is quite possible to multi-task and write notes while watching yet another episode of House Hunters.
Let's make this the year of better communication, of enriching our relationships, one letter at a time. And hey, you can even go crazy and start inviting people to dinner or to hang out with you via these letters! Whoa-hoa! That's next-level stuff right there.
Tell me, when was the last time you sent a letter? Have you let this means of communication go to the wayside?
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Happy letter-writing, my friend.